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28-12-2016 09:31 AM
28-12-2016 09:31 AM
So lost
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28-12-2016 09:47 AM
28-12-2016 09:47 AM
Re: So lost
Hi @gyp
i'm glad you've posted again. sounds like things are so hard right now and confusing. I can't give you any advice, i'm feeling so low at the moment and not sure about so many things myself.. in similar ways.
You are right though, ending things will cause pain to you son. And love isnt always enough when it comes to relationships... i loved my ex though he was abusive.. eventally i was just more scared than in love but i get the confusion.
here listening,
lj
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28-12-2016 10:13 AM
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28-12-2016 10:17 AM
28-12-2016 10:17 AM
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Hi @gyp
I'm sorry to read you're struggling so much at the moment. Just a suggestion for when you see your psych tomorrow - write down on paper what it is you would like to say. Even write it down in point form. whatever comes into your head just write. And when you go into your appt tomorrow just give the paper to your psych. I have done this a few times when I have been struggling.
I hope this helps. Good luck with your appt tomorrow.
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28-12-2016 11:22 AM
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28-12-2016 11:51 AM
28-12-2016 11:51 AM
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I'm so sorry that you are feeling lost but it's totally understandable. You are in a very difficult situation. I'm wondering if you have had contact with a social worker. You can ask to talk to one through Centrelink. Also there is a program that gives you support of a mental health support worker called PHaMs. It might be helpful to look them up and see if the program exists in your area. The support worker can come to your house or you can meet them somewhere. They can go to your Centrelink appointments for support too. The other thing you could try is to ring the sane helpline when it opens again next week to ask if they can help you find specific services in your area to help you find your way and get back on your feet.
And yes depression has all sorts of weird effects. Not showering is a common one. I'm on day 3 myself....worst I got was 10 days😕
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28-12-2016 12:22 PM
28-12-2016 12:22 PM
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28-12-2016 02:10 PM
28-12-2016 02:10 PM
Re: So lost
Hi @gyp
I know i cannot possibly understand your position
But i had a girlfriend and i loved her and her two children deeply
But then i got locked up in a forensic prison facility
And i even talked about getting married while still inside
But i was young and stupid
And it didn't work out
And for me regarding relationships
Nothing since we parted our ways in 2009
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28-12-2016 08:38 PM
28-12-2016 08:38 PM
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Hi @gyp
Sorry that centrelink backfired. Are you sure you cant fix it or send a letter ..
Your ex-asking for sex everyday .. when he is smoking dope every day .. is childish .. and draining of your physical and emotional needs .. and then he is just masking his own sensitivites by burying his feelings under the damn dope ..
My ex husband was a chronic dope smoker for 20 years .. and had completely divorced sex .. from love, affection and respect .. however to me they were linked .. silly boys .. they could have had better relationships .. but after the damage of cynicism is done .. its much harder to fix things.
I would be upset by daily drinking in my house too ..
Your best bet would be finding some small way to set up independently but not too far from .. kids .. do you have other children .. or just your son??
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29-12-2016 02:03 PM
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