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Ah okay that makes sense @creative_writer 

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@ENKELI are you okay?

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thanks @Birdofparadise8 and @Blackbird11.

 

I never got to have kids and then for 10 years I was blessed with my Godchildren. If I'd known they were going to be ripped away from me I would never have got involved with them. They didn't even have a say, their mother had a beef with me and demanded that they not get in touch with me, ever. My heart feels like it's shattered.

 

The day I lost you, I also lost me.

I’ve been trying to find myself again

But it’s hard because you

Were a huge part of my life.        

Not having you here is so painful

I’m just not me anymore.

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I know when we spoke about them before @ENKELI; you said you would leave their present at the door. Did you mange to do that? 

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@Birdofparadise8 no I chickened out. I was concerned that the kids would get their gifts because I know if their mother got home and saw them first she would not give them to the kids.

The only option I have is to leave it at my God daughters' school.

I tried logging into my Big Fish games account today and the password had been changed. The only other person who had access to my username and password was the bitch so I suspect she's changed the password just to piss me off. She also signed me up to e-harmony and a couple of adult websites, as well as a couple of gambling sites. I can't prove it of course but it is pretty coincidental that I started getting emails from these sites after she stopped talking to me. 

I can't even go to my church because she goes there and I've heard back from a couple of people that she has been bad mouthing me to our mutual friends. One of them admitted that she had been telling lies about me. I just don't get it, I paid for the kids to go to a private school, paid for their school camps, bought them expensive gifts because their mother couldn't afford to, paid for their internet and Foxtel, bought food each week and gave money for bills all the while paying my mortgage and car loan. I usually ended up broke because she bled me dry. And the thanks I get is she turns my Godchildren, her mother and her brother against me.

I am not perfect and I did criticise her for buying a car she couldn't afford but as I told her I was looking out for her wellbeing. Didn't matter. She told me she was done, blocked me on Facebook, blocked my mobile number and email addresses, then demanded her family block me also.

 

What I hate the most is that she still gets to me. It's been nearly 12 months and I still am struggling with it all.

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@creative_writer waving hello 👋 🙂

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Oh, that's so bad she did that to you @ENKELI 

I can't believe she would change the password and email stuff to you. Can you create a new account and email account? 

Could you visit the church and see if you can reason with the others? 

I'm going to bed now. It's 11:21 here. I hope you feel better tomorrow. I'm sorry this is happening to you. I truly do sympathise with you. 

 

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sleep well @Birdofparadise8. I'm so glad you are feeling better after your bout of Covid 😍

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Thank you @ENKELI 

Much better now. Now, onto MH fixing up, hahhha.

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Thanks for sharing @ENKELI 

Grief is different for everyone,  it would feel as though they all have passed away. It's hard grieving for one person, let alone you have had to grieve many. It sounds like it's been so hard and isolating for you 💔 

Hugs @ENKELI hopefully the children remember you and look for you as they get older... it's probably too agonising to think that. It is going to take time to recover from such a hard, messy blow. I'm here with you @ENKELI 💚

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