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Hi everyone,
Hi [edited by moderator] I’m here because I recently got out of an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist. For over a year, I was trapped in a cycle of manipulation, gaslighting, and control. He cheated on me, constantly belittled me, and made me question my own reality. He isolated me from my family and friends, went through my phone without my permission, and would threaten me whenever I stood up for myself. Every time I tried to express my feelings or set boundaries, he would twist things around to make me feel like the problem. I spent so much time walking on eggshells, always afraid of what might set him off.
Then, just as suddenly as he pulled me in, he discarded me and moved on to someone else in no time—like I never even mattered. Now that it’s over, I’m left feeling confused, questioning if I was the cause of everything that went wrong. My self-worth has taken a huge hit, and I struggle with severe anxiety and people-pleasing. I constantly fear upsetting others or being abandoned again.
I know deep down that this wasn’t my fault, but healing feels overwhelming, and I don’t always trust my own judgment anymore. I’m here to connect with others who understand, to find support, and to start rebuilding myself after everything I’ve been through. I look forward to sharing, learning, and healing alongside all of you.
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