hey @Nana2 welcome to the forums, glad to see you join us 😊

i'm sorry to hear you've been having a tough time recently, emotions like anger can be really difficult to approach and i can see how overwhelming it must be not knowing how to help the people we care about the most. its great that your grandchild sees a counsellor for 1:1 sessions, talking through the trauma affected behaviours is so important - does she talk to you about it too? feeling angry is a very normal human emotion but often we don't deal with it in the healthiest ways - its so good of you to avoid being reactive, however its so important that both you and your granddaughter have a space to healthily release that emotion. here are some ways i've tried, i know everyone is different but i thought i'd share some ideas to see if any of these are ways you'd like to try/have tried?

• Journaling - just putting our feelings into words can help create some clarity and calm. You can even rip up the pages after you write it or scrunch it into a ball and throw it (these are just suggestions to make writing out feelings a bit more 'fun' for younger kids)
• Sports - any form of exercise is usually a great way to release some of that frustration physically, even something as simple as walking would be great!
• Dance/singing - sometimes music helps regulate our emotions, connecting to a song that you resonate with or just shaking out your feelings
• Throwing - in a safe environment like a backyard, giving her some space to throw soft things (like having a target and throwing water balloons)

I'm sure other members on this forum will be able to share some great ideas with you too! While you're taking care of your grandkids, don't forget to take care of you! Self-care is so important and your mental health matters too 💗