Hi

i am a 57 yr old Nan of 8 grandchildren and 2 of those children are in our care permanently. We are trying to deal with trauma affected behaviour. I am struggling with this. I have done a carers course for trauma affected children and have read through many tips and information forms. Most of which say things I already know. The hardest thing for me is trying not to react when I’m angry. The harder I try the less it works. 
The child’s big emotions are at school and have been big angry outburst eg tipping up desks, throwing iPads around, wiping everything off shelves. It got to the point where the teacher had to clear the room so no one got caught in the crossfire. Towards the end of last year she started striking out at other children which seen her sent home twice. She is only 6yrs old.

These outbursts or “flipping her lid” only happens at school.

I have recently noticed over the last couple of months that she has got very controlling over her sibling and with us.

She is currently seeing a councillor with sessions at school and1 on 1 sessions too.

We are running low on ideas and a bit of energy. In need of help please