@Jynx I guess in the beginning I had no issues with trust or touch. When I first met my husband I didn't have any mental health issues. I was 15 when I met him. It took a long time before we started having an intimate relationship. It was something that gradually happened. I guess you could say that my SA issues were there but not present in my life.

I finished school, went to uni, got a job and started climbing up the ladder of positions/responsibilities in my chosen field. 

It was only when I had work related trauma's that my past SA came to the forefront. At that stage I had to take leave from work. Then came psych's, pdoc's, hospital visits, MH courses and lots of ECT. Things that are still happening in my life. That is when I really started to have issues with touch/hugs and lots of other things, etc.

I guess you could say that it was trial and error along the way. Something that myself and my hubby went through together. The trust was already there. We had already been together for over 20 years. I was just as surprised at what upset me as he was. There were times when I needed his hugs and welcomed his touch. Other times I couldn't stand it. I know I am lucky. Most would have ran for the hills after all I have and am going through. He stuck around.

I guess my situation was different to your sisters. My SA happened as a child/young teenager. 

I hope this answers your questions.

Sorry @creative_writer for taking over your thread.