@Birdofparadise8 for me rejection and abandonment inhabit the same part of my trauma, so I may have just used the words interchangably last night. The distinction I was trying to make was around the fact that a perceived rejection/abandonment and an actual rejection/abandonment can trigger the exact same heightened response. But yeah being left (abandoned) is different to someone deciding not to befriend us in the first place (rejection) so I can see why that distinction is important.

But it doesn't matter as much about what I think - about this, or about crying in therapy, or about frequency of appts; what matters is what you think. Do you think you ought to be able to cry? Do you think less frequent sessions could help you, in the long run? If you don't know the answer well... sometimes all we can do is go along for the ride until the answer becomes apparent. Experience is the best teacher, after all 😉

I'm off for tonight, take care hun.