@Birdofparadise8 Lol... Here's me in the middle of writing up a post to ya, then I see your notification! Hey to you too hun. Here's what I was gonna say ~

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@Birdofparadise8 wrote:

I'll be honest: why does it hurt so much when someone leaves, though they will return? I know why they are leaving for a good reason @Shaz51 

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It's okay to be hurting, and feel suddenly vaulted out of your window of tolerance in this situation hun. Even when logic-brain knows that the person will return, emotion-brain doesn't always listen to logic. Sometimes, when that part of us has been activated, we just gotta sit with it - I find it helpful to be gentle with it, talk to it like it's a small child, like, "Hey, I know it hurts. It's okay that it hurts, cos it reminds us of those painful memories and the people we've lost... but these feelings will pass, and this time it's not forever, so now we can look forward to that person's return!"

It's not 'making it all about you', it's just you expressing that you're having a heightened emotional response. I don't think anyone here would say that the way you're reacting is wrong.