@Birdofparadise8 we don’t always think back to specific events. Like I can be like “if I open up to people they will judge me, invalidate my emotions or hurt me in some way” but I may not go back to a specific memory but it is still tied to past experiences. Having that awareness can be freeing, we are very complex being and it’s hard to understand our reactions at times which is why self reflection is really important for healing.

It’s good you are working on identifying your values with your KHL. I think it’ll help you recover. Sounds like a restoration oriented process