Honestly, from an on-looker's perspective, I think she's having her own struggles and has placed boundaries to support her own mental health and wellbeing @Birdofparadise8 .

I hear these boundaries hurt. I would feel hurt too! Yet I also think it is courageous for her to have set those boundaries instead of just ignoring you. It is not an easy thing to have to set boundaries.

Would you be willing to give this boundary a go? And maybe in the future, the boundaries will shift? Boundaries are not usually set in concrete. Instead, they move with what is happening.