It sure does sound draining @ArraDreaming . 

I can see you being pulled from every direction, yet also wanted to do what's right by your partner and the boys.

It's incredible how you have described your partner. You're one lucky man! It's not easy to find the 'nicest' person (as you described her). What a gem.

Maybe for tonight, it's not about trying to change anything, but rather, just getting through the moment. Enjoy your family. 

Are you at home tonight?