@petrichor 

Self care of whatever works for you.

I have not actually thought of them as 2 different aspects, it was just the way I posted about it.  

When I stopped wanting to overcome my vulnerability, but started taking stock and recognising my vulnerability in a self protective manner, I withdrew. Stopped driving cos not safe. Went to bed.  A lot of rocking, crying, but I am prety much all cried out now. In last 5 years given prn meds so take them. I play piano and Beethoven is soothing for me.   A lot of time in bed, but as my general personality is pretty active, almost driven, I would not say it is too much. It was necessary. I would never say I cant get out of bed to do basic things as the basic things are usually done.  I am not that kind of depressive, more a florid suicidal ideation kind.  Sometimes I get active to distract from that.   Develop a language of self respect and protection.  Try different things that have given you pleasure before.