@Former-Member

The short answer would have been "he has an eating disorder ..." lol .... instead I landed you with an essay, and then some.

I can understand your anxiety about your husbannd's operation, and it's no wonder, between the dramas of your daughter's situation and this, that you are experiencing chest pain. I have at times when everything has seemed to be flying out of order at the same time ....

I hope you find the Stages of Change model encouraging in terms of your daughter's recovery path. I have been warned that with e.d.'s that first stage of change is the longest and hardest, lasting seven years on average. That is how long it has been .... although I didn't even realise .... it took a girlfriend to point out significant occasions and where my hubby was up to at that point for me to realise, but that told me something else too .... we have covered a greater distance than we realised. That's the power of baby steps towards change or recovery ... getting on with getting on .... when you look back you realise how far you have come.

Wishing you strength and perseverance ....

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