dear @Dothemo and I hope that @mohill may read.........

This is Anne Devenson's book :Tell Me I'm Here: One Family's Experience of Schizophrenia

She recently passed away, she was a great great mentor for women and I think one of the people influential starting up Sane Forums. 

She wrote in this book that having a child with spending times with MI health is nothing to do with how well or how badly you bring up your child but the place in birth the child is in ( the oldest, the youngest ) when the first original shock happened. For instance: In my two son's life; The fist shock was the diagnosis of my oungest son's health and quickly followed by a divorce/seperation and that my oldest son did not have his Father around as much. 

I'm pretty positive that I have written correctly, can you moderators or other forum members tell me if I'm wrong ? 

PP