@PeppyPatti 

I am glad you are working through all the complicated aspects of relationships with your sons.

Sometimes it helps to see an example that you really don’t want to follow.

Getting the balance right will be different for each of them.

I have no idea what is normal, I have seen so many varieties and dynamics. 

Treasure the good moments, keep them on a memory loop in the top drawer of your mind. Remember their love. Yes, embrace the people who do want to be in your life, but that carer, needed to work on her professional boundaries. You have apologised enough for whatever happened. 

Hope your next one is a better fit.  Enjoy your art and craft and yep the sense of company on here really makes a difference.

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