Just read this and thought I would share it

It's from a book called Chatter - about how we can cultivate a more positive inner voice. In their experiment participants were unaware that they'd be required to perform public speaking in front of 3 judges who were stoic as. It actually reminds me of a graduate job I applied to - I recall trying to make them laugh. They didn't hahaha.

"Remarkably, as we coded the videos and dug deeper into the data from the experiment, it wasn’t just the participants’ emotional responses that differed. Judges who watched videos of participant’s speeches indicated that people in the distanced self-talk group performed better on the task as well.

We had uncovered a novel distancing tool hidden in the mind: distanced self-talk . As our experiments and others later demonstrated, shifting from the first-person “I” to the second-person “you” or third-person “he” or “she” provides a mechanism for gaining emotional distance. Distanced self-talk, then, is a psychological hack embedded in the fabric of human language. And we now know that its benefits are diverse."

So ultimately, we can direct our inner voice by changing the language.