apologise @avant-garde Wife with BPD  @BPDSurvivor @tyme @Welcome rav3n!  

This might sound self involved.

 I was brought up in a very toxic environment with a step father who is properly diagnosed narcassistic

Mother borderline plus narcassistic.

Both negative people.

My step father tried hard to help me but gave up.

There was only aggression. Absolutely no empathy. For instance - My brother's were too damaged to even call me for over 15 years and offer love when my youngest son had cancer for over 15 years. 

A diagnosis of bpd is fine. It was just my particular Mother with her upbringing, with her particular personality that made it so bad. However many many individuals have had it much worse than mine.

Bpd is about 

 Empathetic. Here's where the empathy comes from: feeling deeply. ...

Perceptive. Equipped with heightened intuition and sensitivity, subtle nuances and emotions are easily picked up on – leading to unique insights and perspectives. ...

Passionate. ...

Creative. ...

Resilient.

In all this - there is another thread 

@tyme who's chooses to work on herself 

@tyme who studies 

@tyme who embraces with love 

@tyme who knows herself 

@tyme who embraces vulnerable people and who is upfront. 

Compare - my mum 

 Mum my mum who pushed me out of home many nights because her emotions weren't contained

Mum who doesn't know herself 

Mum who is a professional victim 

Mum who is still aggressive and purposely triangulates her children and enjoys disharmony 

Mum who was told I might die from the head injury and tried for it to happen.

Mum who can only see black and white and lies to tear good people up. 

A diagnosis is a diagnosis. But you can use it for good or bad. 

I chose to enter therapy because i didn't want to be a mother who would turn out like my mum. 

 @tyme uses her diagnosis for good not to pull out the bad stuff.

My mum who is unaware bodily can only self reflect. 

She doesn't care if I practically starved because of being a sole parent when my kids were young. 

@tyme @who works hard in her role as a sane moderator. I see how @tyme   treats all us regulars with caring and loving notes about all of us individually so we stay cared f

My Mum who researches my step mother who 52 years ago had an affair with my dad and cared and loved him and mum still researches her to spread bad stories about her. 

Sorry I'm no good at writing differences in people with bpd @avant-garde  but do you get the drift?