I hear what you are saying @BlueBay . It sounds so hard and yet it’s something I think we all have to do.

in my recovery, I had to learn that I couldn’t rely on others nor blame others. Yes, shit happened, but I needed to learn to live on my own. I owed it to myself. I didn’t want to live in the shadow of others anymore. I had to learn to direct my life according to how I wanted it and not according to some of the horrors of my past. 

you’re right @BlueBay , it’s so damn hard . As an adult, I was the author of my own story. I couldn’t continue to let others dictate how my story was to end.

today, I am proudly say that I am in control of my life. Yes, I can’t control what’s going on around me or what people say or do, but I can choose to walk away and be the bigger person - and I have.

all the best with your DBT course. Embrace it. Practice it. Learn from it. What you get out of it no one can take away.