@Appleblossom @hanami 

Thanks for taking the time to write a detailed reply and sharing some of your personal experiences. I'm sorry that some of your relatives have been through a similar thing.

My auntie was in Sunbury back in the bad old days and suffered greatly due to institutional abuse. 

I tagged you @hanami because I just wanted to point out that females have always suffered SA and me stating that I feel invisible, was not meant to take anything away from that grim fact. If only people would respect others.

Anyway, I have done enough complaining for one day. @Appleblossom I know that you love gardening and I often think about the 3 houses I lived in that were all on the traditional 1/4 acre blocks. Two were on bush blocks with large gum trees and abundant wildlife. The third was an older established garden (circa 1940s) and had the most beautiful Jacaranda tree on it. I had a dear old friend who was an amateur botanist who delighted in identifying all of the species planted in the yard.