Hello @26aqua , @Eve7 , @Jynx
@26aqua, it seems too easy to say "I know how you feel". And then when I say that I am 70+ years of age and male, it may seem that the knowing must be very different. But, interestingly, I do believe that I have, during my life, felt many of the feelings that you have described. Some of those feelings have been generated by similar circumstances and some for different reasons. However, the resulting feelings, I can identify with and acknowledge
I am still dealing with issues in my life, which is the reason I am a member of this forum.
Sharing your space with others, who, even though they may be related is often difficult. I stayed with my brother and his family because I was working with him. His attitude toward his children and the ambience in the household was such that I had to move to independent accommodation. That may seem the reverse of your situation, but the feelings were similar to what you have described with regard to the presence of your brother.
The SI is something that I can also identify with. I often reflect on the fact that the most important factor in my not pursuing that course of action, was the potential affect that it would likely have on my children, from whom I was separated in circumstances that were far from pleasant (significant understatement) and would possibly now be seen as illegal.
Being able to feel settled in one's own space, without intrusion or uninvited involvement by others is really, I believe, core to feeling somewhat at ease and comfortable.
Not wanting to minimise what you are presently experiencing, I do believe that you are currently working toward being as independent as you can. In this way the load will diminish and the immediate goals accomplished.
Being my age and experiencing what I have, I can suggest that life will continue to throw you some "curved balls" and there will likely be times in the future when you may feel the same way that you feel now, possibly for different reasons. But, the fact that you will have moved through this space and time and come out the other side will give you more resilience and the increased confidence to face future obstacles with even greater force and determination.
That is definitely not the last word, because it is a process for us all and the more we can help and assist each other, even in ways limited by the formats in which we offer such support, the better the development of our personal resources and important links with others.
If you would like to do so, I hope that you continue your conversation here and engage with others in theirs.
With My Very Best Wishes
@HenryX
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