Awesome @BlueBay !

Although I am on my recovery journey, I still have heaps to work on. I still struggle with the good/bad, up/down, black/white thinking. I am working on it with my therapists because I know this is an area I want to change. I guess it is about knowing what needs changing, the working towards it. To me, or perhaps pwBPD, the idea that good AND bad can exist at the same time abosolutely does NOT make sense! The concept is confounding to me.

As a borderline, I found I used to "label" and treat people as 'good' or 'bad' based on their last behaviour. For example, it they looked at me the wrong way, they were labelled as "bad" until their next 'good' behaviour. This was what made my relationships terribly unstable. Or sometimes, someone would help me with something. I would then label them as 'good' and leech onto them to the point of smothering them, until their next 'bad' behaviour - I'd then turn to hate them. As I've grown and matured, I am more wary of this and can balance out my loves and hates a little more. I've still a LONG way to go!

@BlueBay , the BPD journey is hard, but really rewarding. You will learn so much about yourself and others.

Hugs. I'm walking this road with you as YOU do the work.

BPDSurvivor