Hi @BPDSurvivor 

I think maybe I wasn't well enough to take in all the DBT  as it's pretty full on. Yes I went to spectrum last year. I was first assessed by their psych and then accepted to do a small 4 week course. It was one on one with their therapist. It was very short and based on ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy)

my current psych is still wanting me to go back and do dbt again at a Melbourne hospital. But I've told him many times I can't commit as it's expensive and I don't hsve the time that I could attend. 

I feel that from what I've learnt is that my BPD is a combination of no validation or love as a child from my parents. Then my childhood sexual abuse didn't help with my thoughts and brhsviour growing up. 

Reg support groups. About 5-7 years ago I found an online forum specifically for BPD. It was run and moderated by a person who have lived experience. His partner had BPD. He thought it would be good to have a forum and it was good. He then decided to have a BPD support group meetings in Melbourne CBD. They were held monthly. It was a good group. It started  off small but grew quite quickly. It was mostly run by a lady who had BPD. It was good but again it was all new to me and I struggled to grasp and practise the recommendations made.  I made the one hour drive to Melbourne monthly and attend the meetings. 
I can't remember how long after but it was all closed up. The lady ended up working as a consumer advocate at a hospital. And the forum was shut down. 
it's such a shame there isn't a group specifically for BPD.