@Mazarita that was an important about facilitators. 

We have the right to our own feelings and responses to them, can observe behaviours, but be open to move from a comfort zone ... if we are in one... and a personality is fair but different from the ordinary.  

I stretch myself with people, but I am getting to the point where I am also tired of being the one doing all the stretching ... eg in choirs ... any groups ... so getting grumpier ...deary me.