Hi @Crushedreed 

Memory and perspective can be a funny thing. Our recollections aren't always very reliable things. As you can see with your wife, she appears to have a completely opposite memory to yours, one which could be influenced by her current state of mind and the state of your relationship. I can hear that this version of events is very hurtful to you, as you remember it as a time when you put aside your own wants to make her happy and marry before you felt ready. 

I'm wondering if a conversation here about these two versions of events could be helpful? I'm hearing your need to voice your experiences, though being sensitive to your wife feeling invalidated. I'm wondering if impose is the right word here. I don't think that imposing your experiences would be beneficial and would likely cause the other person to become defensive, rather I'd encourage you to express your experience of this time, and try to extend some curiosity to her memory and why these are so conflicting. If you're not sure your wife would be able to have this conversation, maybe it could be something to try during a counselling session, where the counsellor can mediate and ensure you're able to share your side. What do you think?

Also I just wanted to let you know that your post had to have a very slight edit just to remove a name to ensure it's in line with our anonymity guidelines.