Hi @Determined 

thanks for reaching out! 

it is tricky to approach it. I’m finding it hard not to overly engage with the extreme over valuation. It feels really nice, but I am learning to reframe and observe it is a trauma response and it is a place of pain. 

it’s been calm, but there was a few days it was “great” only to realise I was ignoring my feelings of discomfort when my wife was extremely overvaluing the moment. As a result, it lead to a huge emotional crash and the obvious negative expressions are seen. 

on reflection, when my wife was exaggerating her business success to others, (when we are in crippling debt from it with little income), it should have been seen from me as a sign she has “split” and should put up my boundaries to myself and comment to my views only while validating hers… 

do you go through similar? How do you approach the extreme highs?