Not Coping

[Blackbird11]

Enjoy your moments @ENKELI wishing you a safe, happy and blessed Easter 💚

Did you make muffins @Birdofparadise8 ?

[Birdofparadise8]

Not really. Now I'm angry about cleaning the apartment because the other two are too lazy to do it. 

One even came out of her room to see what I was doing, and did she offer to help? NO!

I even put some of her stuff away because she if so fing lazy. 

I'm also angry just with all this MH shit and how fucked up I am. 

I can't stop having so many feelings from what I talked about with my psych. 

So no, I'm not okay. 

I'm sorry. 

By the way I'm not angry at anyone here. I hope this doesn't come across that way @ArraDreaming 

[Birdofparadise8]

no i'mm cleaning @Blackbird11 

[ArraDreaming]

I don’t know not trying to be rude man and like please don’t take this the wrong way but maybe they were never taught? When I moved ikto my first share place i was pretty socially excluded and not very well liked because things like I didn’t know you had to wash dishes with warm water or how to mop a floor, I knew how to put food in the oven so my siblings and I could *survive* as kids and how to look after a baby, I was parentified but I had no friggen idea how to behave in an adult share house, maybe there was nobody there leading by example? Nobody there to teach them… that’s not a criticism of you but like some of us just didn’t grow up watching people do things, we learn off what we see others doing but how can people learn if nobody around them is doing it either

[ArraDreaming]

and some people just aren’t as socially clued on as others when I was 19 ? 20? however old you are, I wouldn’t of ask if I could do anything to help clean if I saw someone cleaning around me… I didn’t wake up to the world around me and those social expectations for a long while

[Birdofparadise8]

Well they were both in share houses last year and said they cleaned @ArraDreaming 

[Birdofparadise8]

Yes, but you're of the opposite gender, don't forget. 

@ArraDreaming 

I hope that isn't rude, like my dad still isn't to an extent. 

It's a female thing with cleaning, I think. 

My mum would show me how. 

The place is that gross it needed cleaning I couldn't wait any longer. 

[ArraDreaming]

While I get what your saying I think in my case it’s probably not that, nobody in my family knows how to clean… even my sisters, but now as an adult I do a pretty even 50/50 split of the household cleaning and jobs around the house… @Birdofparadise8
some weeks I do more outside jobs and opposed to inside but I think gender doesnt come into this for me at least. I did just have to learn things myself and I still get pulled up by wife on things or have to ask how to do things, you know I still cant make mash potato on my own lol

But yeah, in thay case if they have been in other houses I’m not sure @Birdofparadise8

[Birdofparadise8]

And now they have both gone out to get food or a drink and didn't even ask if I wanted anything or if I wanted to go with them. 

And I'm cleaning there place for them. Ahhh, they don't even know how to wash up properly. It's terrible; I'm 21 in September. @ArraDreaming 

I told my mum how she walked past and didn't even offer she said her mum must have done all the cleaning. Like if my mum was wanting to clean on the weekend dad and I would offer to help. 

[Birdofparadise8]

Mashed potato. 

My roommate uses deb potato, and I nearly fell over when I saw her open the packet. @ArraDreaming