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@Birdofparadise8 wrote:

Do you know what synaptic plasticity is @tyme?


 

Most certainly do @Birdofparadise8 !

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Can you tell me about it @tyme?

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Synaptic plasticity is the ability for synapses to change how strongly/weakly they connect to other neurons. This then means it either aids or supports stronger connections to be made. i.e. the part of the brain you use the most is the part that gets strengthened. 

 

Hence, even when we continue in predominantly the emotional brain, then the emotional part of the brain is the strongest. If we start focusing on using the logical part of the brain, then it can even things out a little. For example, those who are highly emotional have a tendency to have an enlarge amygdala @Birdofparadise8 

 

I'm sure you will look into it.

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Thank you @tyme 

I really appreciate it. That was great. 

Yes, I'll get into more detail as the unit goes on. 

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@creative_writer the place I worked for last year was the worst in its industry and I found that out the hard way. I figured I'd do my 2 years then find something else but 2 months short of my 2 years things went pear shaped. I was tasked with training up an off-sider who decided she didn't like the job and even said to one of my colleagues that she didn't want to do the job and would look for something else. I wasn't even told when the off-sider was no longer going to be working with me and later on I was told by HR that off-sider complained I was racist. She had heard this was the easiest way to be placed in another position so on my personnel file I had a note stating I was racist. I tried arguing my point and HR told me they weren't interested in my side of the story, it was done and that was that. I was then given another off-sider who really wasn't suited for the role, he never picked up what I was training him and it took him 6 weeks to learn what everyone else had picked up in 2 days. When I spoke to my boss she said some people take longer to pick things up. In the meantime this offsider also found out that I had been called racist and began threatening me, saying he was going to tell the managing director lies about me. I told him to go ahead, feeling confident that my boss would have my back. Wrong! 

Because of my anxiety my boss KNEW I had to have a support person with me when speaking with HR. She ignored this, took me in to the other HR person with whom I'd never dealt and then said I was the one with the problem. I told them that my new co-worker was threatening me and the response was that I already had a record of being a racist and difficult to work with. HR then also told me I was being written up for not phoning my boss to advise I was leaving early. I had emailed my boss because there was no phone in my office, we were not allowed to use personal mobiles during work time and I had no coverage in the office anyway. I was so shell shocked that I said I felt like I was being forced to resign and the HR bitch said that if that's the way you feel you may as well finish up today but you need to put it in writing.

I contacted Fairwork and found out there was nothing I could do because they had on record that I was racist and difficult to work with. In my 30+ years of working I have never been accused of being difficult to work with. I have commendations from customers and colleagues because of my work ethic and how they enjoyed working with me.

As I write this I'm about to burst in to tears because I am so scared of the same shit happening again.

Correct have burst in to tears.

 

I'd already had a rough year as I have mentioned previously so I felt like I really am a horrible person and unworthy of anyones' friendship.

It's taken a toll that's for sure.

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@ENKELI it is a very shitty position to be in, people can be cruel 😞. I sincerely pray you never find yourself in that situation again. You are more worthy than you realise, you matter to us on here, hon 💖🫂

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@creative_writer thanks sweetie 😍

I think as soon as I am working again my confidence will improve. Ha the irony!!

 

Again, thank you for your kindness 🫂😍

 

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@ENKELI a health work environment can boost your sense of worth, and I hope you do find it. I hope you are able to do something kind for yourself tonight to wind down 💖🫂

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@creative_writer I'm watching Gilmore Girls (how retro!) and doing a diamond painting 😍

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@ENKELI sounds like a relaxing way to end the evening 💖. What are you diamond painting tonight?

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