Not Coping

[Shaz51]

Heeyy @Blackbird11 🙂

[Blackbird11]

Hey @Shaz51 😀

[Shaz51]

how are you today @Blackbird11 

[Birdofparadise8]

My dad just sent me this photo of our fig tree. They are the first ones we have ever had. I can’t believe they finally grow when I’m not there to enjoy them. @Shaz51 @Blackbird11 

[Birdofparadise8]

Have I upset anyone or done something wrong?

[creative_writer]

@Birdofparadise8, sorry to hear things haven’t been the best for you today. The fig tree looks lovely. You haven’t upset me. Why do you think you would have upset us? Might help to unpack what’s going on in your mind?

Hi @Blackbird and @Shaz51, how are you both doing?

[Birdofparadise8]

Well, I'll be honest, but this always seems to happen. This week I haven't posted as much as I nornaly always post to see how everyone is. I was hoping that maybe someone might think of me and say hello to me. I have mentioned how I feel really lonely, like no one cares about me because I never get any messages, not just on here but in my whole life. 

I thought maybe people weren't talking to me because I'd done something wrong or upset everyone. 

Please don't be mad at me for saying this. It's how I feel and I know everyone is busy. @creative_writer

[Shaz51]

no @Birdofparadise8 you have done nothing wrong my friend , sitting with you and @creative_writer , @Blackbird11 , @Jynx , @tyme 

[Birdofparadise8]

I feel like I'm falling, everyone.

[creative_writer]

@Birdofparadise8, I’m sorry to hear you’ve been feeling lonely on the forums and we all want to feel cared for and supported, it’s a natural human desire. I am wondering if these fears are coming from fear of abandonment. I’ve noticed on several occasions that you feel upset when others distance themselves from you for one reason or another. It’s not because they are upset with you, there can be many other reasons. I think it would be good idea to explore other supports you can access to have some of your needs met.

You certainty haven’t upset me. I do enjoy talking to you, but sometimes I do have other things going on. I haven’t been super well the past month in terms of mental health, and only feeling I’m getting on top of it now. Sometimes life does get busy with uni, and unfortunately it does eat at my time so I can’t spend as much time here, but I’ll be here whenever I can 💖