I'm sorry

[PeppiPatty]

Dear @Former-Member

as usual...I never saw this thread until now.....reading a bit of it.....wha ta varied amount of answers and care .....all great and caring and full....all different......

Oops.....just a tic.....Hi @Appleblossom ! I've wondered where you were ! 

Hi @BlueBay....we have met havent we ? 

Hi @Former-Member.....always good to see you... how are you ? Hows the weekend looking ? I've just arrived in holiday to my FIL's home.....you can feel  the stress falling off you the further you get away from your home......

It's good that you are making decisions about how much you can cope with on the forums......I usually get on it to give myself 5 minutes peace.....

The messages I like are everyones...everyone knows what I think about @Appleblossom....her life has been something I can't even comprehend ...if she can get some care from a message... I smile softely to myself. 

But @Faith-and-Hope and @Decadian......great messages.... I really like how thorough you are @Faith-and-Hope. I'm not saying that everyone elses were boring or anything but how @Faith-and-Hope is able to write about your empathy to me is exactly what the Psychologist was talking about. 

In that when your fragile and vulnerable, it's easy to get into that mode of caring too much......

In my years of...being married to my soulmate, two sons with all their sad sad issues..... I've had to learn how to take care of myself. It can get really difficult because :

I'm empathetic and will stretch myself right now if you need me ok ? 

My darling husband is more intelligent than me so even though i am his fulltime carer... he just needs to see someone who visits me  and he tells me this person is not good for you.... we start arguing for the whole day....we go to bed and give each other a back rub and we apologise.....I go to see my Psychotherapist with him....I tell her this is what happened and guess what ? She says, PeppiPatty, this person will suck the life out of you. If you do not engage, she will wander away and you cannot have this person in your life..........

What @Faith-and-Hope writes to me is a very good overall summary of being on Sane Forums. We are not going anywhere but we know that though there are very few people who are like you, we want you to be the best that you can be. Your heart needs mending. Your son needs exploring. 

Now as I write this, a photograph that was posted of my 26 year old son yesterday on Facebook comes to my mind. There he is. He's wearing a t-shirt I would love to purchase for him!! He is with a large group of friends. He is sitting down, his arms are crossed. I look into his eyes and I can see uncertainty. His head is not quite straight on his neck, held up on his shoulders. His lips do not look straight. 

I know that he is not on medication. He has told me what he is going through. 

But I texted him and today he texted back for me to call him on Sunday. My prayers and my slightly bent heart is waiting this to happen for you @Former-Member.

Please write soon on how you are and what is hapening. I am, @Decadin is @Faith-and-Hope is @BlueBay @Appleblossom @Appleblossom @Shaz51 is wanting this for you.

PP x 

[Former-Member]

hello all

We have 2 cats, both spoilt, who behave like naughty children. They sit in the hallway glaring at us when they know we are going out. They are there waiting for us when we return.

We both love animals.

They sense when things are not going well for me also.

thankyou

[Former-Member]

Hello @PeppiPatty @BlueBay @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member @Appleblossom and all others

Thank you all for your kind words and thoughts. I cannot begin to describe how powerful the feeling  is when I receive a response no matter how small and no matter how written.

The very fact that I am valued on here and am considered worthwhile to respond to means the world to me. A huge issue for me goes back as far as a young girl, not being listened to, not being heard, being different, being dismissed.

So I am going to struggle very much with this. I would hate to think that I would miss some change in your life and not be here for you.

I will be here in a way that you will be in my thoughts. I have not let go of you, I am just not going to cling on so tightly.

i will keep in touch and please forgive me in advance if I miss out someone's name.

I will not spread myself as much and definitely watch the time factor.

stay safe xxxxx

[Former-Member]

That's the way @Former-Member. Find how you do it best to suit your needs.

[Former-Member]

Oops sending you reassuring hugs 💜🤗

[Decadian]

Hi @Former-Member

I have read back a couple of pages here and people have been saying most of the stuff and more about what I have been saying about being in the site - and I like and love what they say - and obviously you are well loved and appreciated also - just stay here as long as you feel like it and don't get caught up in other people stories -

It's not a job - we come here for help, support and company - social media might not be a way it could be done a lot 20 years ago - impossible 40 years ago - but now it's what people do

And you are valued here

I'm so glad I read all those thoughts - lots of hugs today - Dec

[PeppiPatty]

Oh, and @Former-Member 

thats what I do too...say sorry.....

 dont say sorry, dont be neurotic.blaming yourself.

Great Suggestion @Former-Member.....

@Decadian

Back to us.....Ive come down South to focus

on my novel

 have a break from Perth

and do my TAke 5 magazine puzzles 

do a bit of cleaning of my FIL place...

ignore my husband because his Father takes him to the chemist and gives me a break...

PP 

[Shaz51]

Hello @Former-Member 

yes i am an animal lover too , cats do take over our lives and our houses and we would not have it any other way xx

You are very  valued on here my friend , and sorry I have missed your messages due to my Flu

how are you today

[BlueBay]

Hi @PeppiPatty

Yes we have met before.  I used to be "sadgirl".  Do you remember?

How are you?

[Shaz51]

Ohhh my special friend @PeppiPatty

...I never saw this thread until now -- I know there are some thread I have not been on yet xx

I am sorry @PeppiPatty, @BlueBay, @Decadian, @Former-Member, @Former-Member, @Faith-and-Hope, @Appleblossom

The last 2 weeks have been soooo big with Mr shaz with kidney stones, my mum in hospital, me with the flu

so today was my first day out of the house this week with the flu and I am tired again this afternoon

had a good talk with @Former-Member on topic tuesday and she thinks i am having a carers burnout  and @CherryBomb has she is not surprised with what has been happening lately

and then Mr shaz said I might need some meds to help me

I did see my doctor about it @Faith-and-Hope and she said " Let`s get over all this first " and then we will see if you need any Meds to help you