Not Coping

[ENKELI]

@Birdofparadise8 sorry hon, I DID see the comment and completely forgot to respond to it.

I'm feeling optimistic about the future and everything, just a shift in my outlook. I don't know, I woke up early this morning and have been in a pretty good mood for most of the day.

Ask whenever you wish. If not tonight definitely tomorrow x

I'm finishing a diamond painting so I'll be around for a while 

[Birdofparadise8]

Can you show me the painting once you're done @ENKELI 

All good. My meds kicked in quickly today, so I will go. 

Enjoy your night, and I look forward to talking with you tomorrow. 

Thank you for tonight. It's the first night I haven't felt sad etc, over Friday and Monday. 

[ENKELI]

@Birdofparadise8 so happy to hear that.

Will show you the pic when it's finished.

Sleep well x

[Birdofparadise8]

Goodnight @ENKELI 😀 😴

[Birdofparadise8]

Hey @Former-Member 

You mentioned something about using your imagination. Do you like see what you're looking at? Because I shut my eyes, it's just black; I can't see anything. 

I hope you're having a good morning. I'm on my way to my GP. Then I have an osteo appointment. 

[Birdofparadise8]

Hi @ENKELI 

I'm unsure if you'll be able to answer this, but I will give it a go. 

So my psych asked if I had been bullying myself because of what happened with Ro and I said no because I think I had been focusing on them as a whole and what they did. 

Then he said he was proud of me. 

I said thank you. 

Then I froze and it made me very anxious. I didn't like it. 

I don't understand why I can accept validation it's so hard. My friend said to me one day something nice about me and I really didn't like it then either.

What's your thoughts? @ENKELI @Former-Member @Blackbird11 @tyme 

Now this isn't me going on about RO. It's about validation and what my psych said. 

[Snowie]

Hi @Birdofparadise8 

I hope you don't mind me weighing in.

Validation is something a lot of people have issues with. At times it is hard to accept other people's opinions of ourselves, whether they be positive and/or negative. It is especially hard to accept it if we have a low opinion of ourselves. Just because someone says something to us doesn't mean we have to accept/believe it.

The other thing is that validation can be present in many different ways. Our supports can do it by expressing empathy and understanding towards us. An example of this is when they say things like "I can understand why you feel that way" and "That must be a frustrating situation for you".

One way I have accepted validation is trying to treat myself how I would treat someone else. If I was that person, would I say that to myself. Another way is to accept that they are coming from a place of care for you. 

I hope this helps a bit. This is just my opinion of it. I'm sure there are other members that have different opinions that might help.

Sorry for the long winded response 😁

[lavenderhaze]

Good morning @Snowie @Birdofparadise8 🙂

That's a really good perspective and insight snowie, thank you for sharing ❤️

[Birdofparadise8]

That's good @Snowie 

Thank you. 

I've just been to the gp and she wanted to weight me I really didn't want to get weighted i know I've put some weight on and I feel really bad about it. She covered it up so that was nice. If I had of seen my old gp in Hobart she would have talked about BMI and how mine is high. She would go on and on about losing weight. 

[Birdofparadise8]

Hi @lavenderhaze 

How are you?