Tw Not Coping

[Birdofparadise8]

Hahaha your a little younger than my parents they were born 1967 @hanami 

How old are you kids are any of them a similar age to me?

[hanami]

I'm thinking they would definitely be similar age to you. My girls are 19 and 34 and my boys are 24 and 25. I have forgotten your age???!

[Birdofparadise8]

You have a few kids your lucky. 

My mum wanted to have four but she only ended up having me. She had quite a few miscarriages and a still birth. They ended up having me I was born prem but survived. I am 19 turning 20 next month. 

I would have loved some siblings but oh well. 

[Shaz51]

Totally love your children @hanami 😀

[hanami]

Naw @Birdofparadise8 that must have been hard for your mum, I really feel for women who have stillbirths, miscarriages. It must be just awful to go through. It is what it is though, hey. I always thought I'd be happy with one. But turned out different! Your mum is blessed to have you. I only have one brother and always wanted more so I know what you mean. You're a little older than my youngest. xx

[hanami]

Yeah they turned out alright lol 😃

[Birdofparadise8]

yeah i think she still hasn’t processed it and sometimes comes onto me @hanami 

[hanami]

That's so sad @Birdofparadise8 . There must be a lot of heartbreak in your family. I imagine each time she lost a baby the grief would have been so overwhelming. Is your dad a good support for her? It's hard on you too in that you can feel her loss and you probably have the loss of your siblings all weighing on you. I'm so sorry that's happened to your family. x

[Birdofparadise8]

Yes she can’t even watch someone having a miscarriage or stillborn on tv she gets upset. I think she needs to process it but she doesn’t seem to think so. It’s like it’s leaching into me. 

I guess so they don’t really talk about it when I’m around maybe they do on there own @hanami 

Thank you 

[hanami]

Gosh so tough @Birdofparadise8 . Really tough. I can only imagine losing babies so have no idea how I would have processed it. I think nowadays there is a lot more talk of it openly and a lot more services that allow you to talk about it. It was very much kept quiet even back when I was having my bubs. I remember my sister in law had a miscarriage and hardly a word was said about it. x