Not Coping

[Former-Member]

Yes of course, I don’t mind at all @Birdofparadise8 🙂🌺

I have my own experience with living with mental/emotional health challenges.. I live with fluctuating anxiety (mostly social), cPTSD with flashbacks, and have experienced depression in the past. The most important thing in having these conditions, is that I think less that they’re there all the time, and consider them to be either significant or not so, depending on my resilience levels.. if that makes sense? 
Then, this tends to loose the bonds of rigidity and control that living with a MH condition has: I like to think that they can be a very small part of me, almost insignificant, as well as the times when they are a larger presence. So, giving me back more control to be more me, and less the namesakes of fluctuating markers of distress 🙂💜🌺

Thats just my personal perspective, and I hope it’s ok with you that I’ve shared it here🙂🌺

I’m really sorry your roomie is leaving a mess and making noise 😔❤️‍🩹

it’s not easy to live alongside others who have different ideas on boundaries and chores… do you think they might be amenable to a chat about setting up a cleaning schedule or agreement, and a kind chat about sound sensitivities? 🙂🌺

[ENKELI]

@Birdofparadise8 both would drive me insane. I used to work with a woman who would just burp loudly. She never excused herself or tried to cover it up. It was disgusting! I asked her if she could perhaps cover her mouth, nope didn't happen.

As for the dishes, people know better than to leave dishes in the sink too long. I can't stand a messy kitchen, never have been able to. Things have to be washed, dried and put away! I may be messy in my own space (ie bedroom, ensuite - I keep forgetting to put my makeup away) but don't mess the kitchen or I will snap!

Are you able to have a roommate meeting or leave a note and ask very gently if the others could clean up after themselves?
As for the noisy one, she may not realise she's making the noise. You'll have to approach that one very softly softly so as not to make her mad.

I honestly don't know how you do it, living with strangers. You're braver than me that's for sure!

[Birdofparadise8]

Okay, thank you for sharing @Former-Member 

You have a very insightful lens on you. You have a lot of knowledge. You sound like you understand yourself very well and how to handle things if they come up. I wish I could. 

I know it's so annoying. It's their stuff, so I can't really say anything about it. 

They didn't even include me on Monday to get dessert. I'm not sure if we spoke then or not. 

[Birdofparadise8]

They are all clean by their standards. However, not mine. Some of it is still dirty. Eww

Like I've just had dinner, washed up and put it all away. It's not that hard to go the extra step and put things away. 

I'm not sure, but I don't want to upset anyone. @ENKELI 

[Blackbird11]

Thanks @Birdofparadise8 we went over assessments for this unit tonight, really helpful.

[Birdofparadise8]

What's the assignment @Blackbird11 

[ENKELI]

@Birdofparadise8 oh Lord! "They are clean." That hurts my brain!

I'll be back shortly, gotta go pick up my bro x

[Birdofparadise8]

I know one has grease from a curry all in it. 

All good. Tag me when you're back if you would like to @ENKELI 

[Blackbird11]

It is Contribute to the continuous improvement of mental health services for consumers and carers @Birdofparadise8 

[Birdofparadise8]

That sounds interesting @Blackbird11 

What will you do for the rest of the night?