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[buzzer40]

Hello

So recently after a victim of family violence incident  I was diagnosed with BPD despite having no issues with anger, self identity or obvious implusive behaviours . During diagnose hospital team explain to me what I'm having is not family violence and my reactions of fear and distress is not normal response to my family actions.

This one of most confusing diagnose I have as would thought being physically assaulted by family would be family violence and fear and distress be very natural responses, but my diagnosed team ensured it's just BPD acting up. Further it was suggested that cause of BPD maybe unknowingly I pretend be gay just to upset my family.

It was also suggested it's my duty to ensure relationship with family is stable and it can be done even when they are attacking me.

This so strange be told after years abuse I getting actually all my own fault cause of BPD and i need fix instead of family changing abusive behaviours.

[puzzlingdino]

Hi @buzzer40,

I'm sorry you're going through this - I imagine it must be difficult feeling like your experiences are being invalidated. I really hope you're able to get the support you deserve for what you're experiencing.  

[wellwellwellnez]

Hmmm. I'm no expert but as a consumer, I'd say that warrants a second opinion @buzzer40 .

As a non expert, I still know that BPD doesn't mean, not under abuse (it very often means the opposite).

I also know that "pretending to be gay" isn't on the DSM. Being gay was taken of the DSM for 100 good reasons. I would certainly not like to see any practitioner trying to sneak it back on via false proxy diagnosis. As a non-expert, that would seem like the kind of malicious malpractice that could end a so-called expert's career.

I wonder what the actual experts, like the Human Rights Tribunal or the Australian Psychological Society, would have to say.

[buzzer40]

@wellwellwellnez This was coming from a public hospital. Suggest was need to deal with BPD ASAP, and stop making it out to family violence issues. Worst thing is having it documented as i ask people seem becoming more clear likely not BPD at all